Recovery
Blog posts and long reads about addiction and recovery. See also: Terminally Unique.
- Addiction Creates Suffering ()
“Suffering is the stress created by craving for more. Suffering is never having enough to feel satisfied. […] Suffering is the thought that I cannot be happy until I get… Suffering is the anguish and misery of being addicted.” —Noah Levine, Refuge Recovery With each return to addictive behavior there’s an implicit denial of self […]
- Numb the Good, Numb the Bad, Numb the Ugly ()
“We don’t want to feel the hurt anymore. And so we numb it. And we numb it with everything you can imagine. But what happens when you numb the hurt and you numb the grief, is you numb the joy and you numb the light. You cannot selectively numb affect.” —Brené Brown, Rising Strong as […]
- The Elephant and Being ()
“Becoming becomes a denial of being.” —Bruce Lee A few weeks back on a trip to New York, I was explaining my elephant tattoo to a new friend. It’s not always easy to articulate ideas that have rattled around in your head for a long time, and admittedly I probably did a poor job at […]
- Believed to Be Seen ()
Believed to Be Seen is a writing project I published in February of 2013, when I was twenty-nine. At that time, I surmised its aim to be that of documenting “my evolving experience with the American addiction treatment industry, and how I finally found my way out of its maze.” The obvious angst of that […]
- The Downside of Getting My Way ()
From Believed to Be Seen, “When I was in high school a teacher asked our class to look at our futures and think of what goals we would like to achieve. Being seventeen years old I felt life would be complete if I could see some of my favorite bands perform live and own a […]
- The Elevator to Success ()
This evening, at a meeting, an older guy shared an experience he’d had earlier in the day. Reading the newspaper (which, as he said, is how you know he’s old), he was doing one of the word puzzles – the type where it provides the first few words of a phrase, leaving you to solve […]
- Fear of the Dark ()
“The things we want are transformative, and we don’t know or only think we know what is on the other side of that transformation.” –Rebecca Solnit, A Field Guide to Getting Lost Embarking on any kind of new direction can be, and often is, overwhelming. A new beginning can come with fear – the What […]
- Right Action, Right Thinking ()
It’s often said that “right action leads to right thinking,” meaning that positive feelings often follow positive actions, rather than the inverse. For so long though my thoughts either led me astray from what that right action really was, or they rationalized questionable action in the name of something “right enough.” Such is the plight […]
- A Return, A Renewal ()
The first time I visited New York City was in December 2005 as part of a class trip. This was prior to TSA laws tightening up, and on the morning of our flight I loaded up two water bottles with vodka for our trip. I remember making a makeshift Bloody Mary on the plane with […]
- And Then What…? ()
“The honey doesn’t taste so good once it is being eaten; the goal doesn’t mean so much once it is reached; the reward is not so rewarding once it has been given.” —the Tao of Pooh It came up in conversation this morning, the idea of “And then what?” Let’s say I find an ideal […]
- Being the Party ()
“I can be the party, but going to the party’s difficult.” That line says so much for how I’ve felt for most of my life. When people ask me what it was like when I was drinking, they don’t always seem to understand the isolation that was a part of it. Going all the way […]
- Replacement Therapy ()
Within the context of recovery, the word “renunciation” is a new phrase for me. In Refuge Recovery it’s explained as “the practice of abstaining from harmful behaviors.” Similarly, the term’s Wiki article pins it as “the act of rejecting something, especially if it is something that the renouncer has previously enjoyed or endorsed.” In looking […]
- The Willingness ()
Willingness might well be inversely proportional to how well things are going in my life. Then again, even in the challenging times, when my ass is wholly engulfed in fire, sometimes it’s hard to find the willingness to do what it takes to put out the flames. Why does the shelf life of my willingness […]
- The Illusion of Relief ()
The illusion of relief goes beyond “self-sabotage” or an internal voice of doubt – the illusion of relief goes deeper. The illusion of relief masks its harm as a justified solution. The illusion of relief sells itself as the only viable option. The illusion of relief looks like a safe harbor in the midst of […]
- The True Burden of Self ()
A week ago it dawned on me: some clarity around the egomaniac with an inferiority complex dilemma that so many of us share in. There’s a voice in my head, looking at me, judging me, critiquing my every action. Rarely does it scream – it exists as an ambient hum, always present yet rarely noticeable. […]
- Alcoholic Musings, Part 3 ()
One of the upsides of writing online is that it helps me work ideas through in a forum where friends can pop in as they please and check up on me. One of the downsides is that you never know who else might find you, what they might think, and furthermore how they might react. […]
- Alcoholic Musings, Part 2 ()
The fact of the matter is… “The Program works.” Unless you look at Alcoholics Anonymous’ 1989 Triennial Membership survey, which explained that only 5% of newcomers continue past the first year, and 50% drop out within 30 days. The fact of the matter is, though, that there are times when facts don’t matter that much. […]
- Alcoholic Musings ()
“Alcoholics Anonymous” has played a comedic role in my life for ages; the brunt of a joke between friends who, by no stretch of the imagination, are all variants of the term’s textbook definition. For instance, in college we got drunk (drunk!) before putting on our workout gear and hitting the gym for an intramural […]